Three Steps to Living a More Empowered Life

Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.” This applies to the way you feel about yourself as well as your response to what others say about you. I’ve spent a good deal of my life worried about what other people might think of me and consequently created a lot of negative self-talk that I wasn’t good enough, smart enough, attractive enough. You get the picture. Until I learned the opinions of other don’t matter. All that matters is my opinion of me and aligning my actions around my vision and giving myself grace in the process.

A vision is the big picture of what you want your life to look like. Creating a vision statement is useful to guide decisions about your daily life. Consider using one of the following to help you craft your vision statement. Pick a date in the future, maybe the day you retire or your 70th birthday. There will be a celebration and at this party someone asks you to tell them about your life and some of your significant accomplishments. What do you want that answer to be?

Or you may prefer to write out what the ideal day looks like in your life 5 years from now. Where do you work? Who do you interact with? What does your office look like? Write as much detail as possible to get a clear picture of the perfect day for you.

Now, do your day to day, week to week, activities line up with your answer in one or both of those exercises? If not, what will you change to make your dreams come true?

Read your vision statement out load each morning so you can take action on making it happen. An accountability partner or a coach can help you keep on track. We often break promises we make to our self. We often keep promises we make to others especially when we know we will have to share the action we or did not take.

Mistakes and setbacks will occur. Be kind to yourself. Avoid spending time complaining about what didn’t work out or beating yourself up because you failed.

When Edison was working on inventing the light bulb, he didn’t consider his previous attempts failure, just ways that didn’t work. Lucky for us he didn’t let those attempts stop him from discovering a way that did work. Write about the mistake in your journal or tell the story once to one close friend. Avoid the temptation to repeat the story to anyone who will listen or replay the scenario over and over again in your mind. Learn from it and then move on. Take the next action that will move you in the direction of your goal. 

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